09 Apr Do You Want Peace or a Fight? The Terms of Your Divorce
A 50-year old woman of much wealth drives home from the grocery store at 5:00pm.
She drives through the automatic gate, up the artistically paved driveway of lines and curves. She parks in front of her house. She breathes in the scent of the orchids and lilies as she makes her way down a path leading to an alternate door that only she and her husband use.
She tells the cook to make something nice for she and her husband, turns on slow jazz music, then plops down on her favorite plush white chair facing her garden that she carefully designed with an artistic landscaper.
She begins to daydream about being at a gala with executives like her husband, except this time, donned in her custom-made clothes she was being tempted by every attractive man there.
A 52-year old man drives up the same winding driveway in his 2-year old Cadillac Escalade at 6:00pm. He grabs his suitcase and heads into the house using the same alternate door that his wife used.
He gives her a brisk kiss on the cheek that catches her off-guard. It was a kiss so swift that he had already turned to walk away. She reaches for his hand and misses. He sees the gesture, but chooses to ignore it by turning and walking into the library to pick up where he left off in a novel.
Ending on Your Terms
If the story in the opening sounds like you then you might be thinking of getting a divorce. Should you? A counselor can help you with that question, but ultimately you make the final decision.
Some couples will want a peaceful ending. Some will choose to fight it out in court. Which one honors what you value? Do you value moving on as quickly as possible? Do you value getting what you deserve, above all else, no matter how ugly the fight gets?
If your marriage is amicable enough, like the fictional one above, you might consider a non-litigious, collaborative style divorce.
In this type of divorce, you and your spouse work with an attorney who helps you plan the dissolution of your marriage with your future in mind. Divorce doesn’t have to be a battle to the end if you don’t want it to.
If the scenario above is the complete opposite of your marriage, you’ll want to speak with your lawyer about filing for a divorce with the court because you will need their help to fight for the properties and assets you are entitled to.
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